At present date, If we look towards
today Newspaper, we can see the divorce rate have been quite increased in the
married family life. There may be various reason i.e movements of youth towards
abroad, having the affairs with other and so on.
I want to present my view by this article by observation of
the youth, there words towards definition of life and mismatch between the
thought in the generation. The sample taken by me is my friend circle and the
students.
First Problem:- The first problem is lacking of proper guardianship.
Proper guardianship in the sense, In Nepal almost 90% parents are themselves indiscipline.
Indiscipline in the sense the parents themselves are involved in drinking wine,
have affairs with other, making bad friend circle, playing cards and so on.
This beliefs is being transfer to there children. But it also have been found,
the parents don’t want there child to do the same thing what they do. For
example A father who drink wine, he don’t like his children to drink it. But
our parents forget that the belief is being transferred to their children by
the guardianship.
Second Problem:- The second problem is the gender
differentiation. In Hindu religion, one parents control his/her daughter a lot.
They don’t allow their daughter to go out, and so on. But to son everything is
been allowed. If a boy is being given free it means he is involve in wrong
thing. Example:- If a girl is being raped that means someone son have raped it.
But our society says that girls is bad not the boy.
Third Problem:- Lack of proper Rite (Sanskar) between Boy and Girl. Before marriage
generally what it have been seen, a guardian do not allow his daughter to do
household work. But our parents expect that the daughter in law, should know all. works. They forget that there own daughter is going to be daughter in
law of other family and vice-versa. Example, Today our parents don’t allow
there child to do household work and they expect there daughter in law should
know all the household work. Due to this reason conflict arises.
Fourth Problem:- Due to movies, facebook and increase in
purchasing capacity of youth. Today’s generation are seeing a dreamy life or
want to live how the actors have lived in movie. Example, weekly party,
birthday celebration and so on. But it have been seen that today’s youth in the
income of their parents they are enjoying a lot with their gf/bf. They spend
money a lot. But after marriage when the entire financial load comes on their
head, they don’t do this. So there is deviation of the life. Due to this what a
girl expect, she don’t get after marriage.
Fifth Problem:- We are being taught about gender equality,
positiveness. But in fact what the beliefs our religion have taught neither it
is positive, neither Hindu religion also don’t allow gender equality. For
example, why a girl should go to boy house, why not a boy can go to girl house,
why girl should lower in age. Most important thing is regarding positiveness,
why a girl character is only seen why not boys.Hindu religion some points are
itself negative. Why there is Necessary of Son or why every family at list have Son. Why a Son can only give Fire , when his Parents die why not Daughter. So all over what we have
being taught and what Hindu religion says it have a gap.
So due to the gap between the beliefs developed by our
parents, beliefs developed by Hindu
religion and the false expectation and dreamy life of youth , family life is
not going well.
By:- Krishna Raj Bhatta
2017 March 3 @ 8:15 pm
Dhangadhi-- 02 - Baiyabehadi
